The holidays can be challenging, especially when caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or other form of Dementia. Let us help ease the stress and join us for a special event.
Hear from The Alzheimer’s Association and learn effective holiday tips, which will include creating a safe, stress free environment, along with individual and family preparation supporting you and your loved one.
As a caregiver, we understand getting away can be difficult, so your loved one is welcome to join. You can even creating memorable moment with the opportunity to design your own personalized holiday ornament.
attend and participate.
Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or other form of dementia comes with unique challenges. But when the weather turns cold there are even more factors to consider.
Everything from minimizing fall risks in parking lots to preventing confusion and fear during a winter storm are factors to consider.
These cold weather tips can help you get prepared to keep your loved one safe and comfortable.
Preventing Winter Falls
During the winter, ice is often an issue and can be very dangerous. Even the smallest amount of ice lead to a fall – especially for those who may not be as steady on their feet as they once were. But when you have to get to the grocery store or a doctor’s appointment there are times icy steps or sidewalks just can’t be avoided.
Proper Footwear – If you must take your loved one out in inclement or icy weather make sure they have warm footwear with plenty of traction. They may insist on wearing their favorite bedroom slippers but safe footwear is critical to preventing slips or falls.
Parking – Whenever possible pull your car into a garage or as close to a non-slippery surface as possible. Help them in and out of the car to a safe, non-slippery space. If possible, recruit a friend or family member to help your loved inside while you park the car.
Many hospitals, doctors offices and shopping areas offer low-cost or free valet parking so you can get as close to the entrance as possible and walk your loved one inside without having to deal with slippery parking lots or walking too far from a parking space.
Safety at Home – Monitor your outdoor space for hazards inkling icy steps, uneven sidewalks, tree branches or anything that could facilitate a fall. Keep a supply of ice melt on hand and follow best practices to use it effectively and safely including storing it away from children, pets, or anyone with Alzheimer’s or dementia.
Even in winter months getting outside and staying active can be fun and help everyone stay healthy. Even a walk around the block or around the back yard can boost someone’s mood and keep boredom away – it just takes some extra precautions. Caregivers will need to help those with dementia to dress for colder weather including:
Hats, scarves, mittens or gloves that are easy to get on and off
Wear appropriate shoes or non-skid boots
Pay attention to slippery stairs sidewalks, ice falling off trees, slippery or slush snow that could cause someone to easily lose their balance
Too Cold To Get Outside?
Those living with memory loss struggle to separate memory from the physical state of present-day living. They can often become bored overwhelmed or agitated which can lead to Alzheimer’s wandering. When it is too cold outside it is still important to try and stick to your daily schedule to prevent these behaviors.
If your daily walk isn’t feasible because of cold weather, plan ahead and have other activities ready. Chose those that will help promote movement and inspire purpose. Such as playing cards, appropriate crafts or even walking around the house or looking out the window at bird feeder.
Winter Storm Coming?
If the forecast calls for winter storm or severe cold take precautions early. You will be more relaxed and so will your loved one. If they sense you are worried and nervous they can easily pick up on your behavior.
Plan ahead by stock up on supplies including food, medications, incontinence supplies, flashlights, batteries, hats and blankets. Plan for some fun activities including puzzles, listening to music, making snowflake crafts or clipping coupons.
Power Outages at The Memory Center
Both the Memory Center Richmond and Virginia Beach have several cold weather safety features in place including snow removal, backup generators, emergency food supplies and plans to maintain fully staffed.
Contact us for more information about our dedicated memory care communities in Atlanta (Johns Creek), Richmond and Virginia Beach or to schedule a tour.
Eat2think.com recently published practical tips on handling mealtime when caring for someone with Alzheimer’s and dementia.
Life with Alzheimer’s means most everyday tasks such as bathing, dressing, finding meaningful and safe activities, and mealtimes can be challenging. People living with memory loss struggle to separate memory from the physical state of present-day living. They can often become overwhelmed, agitated or distracted. For some, sundowning is also an issue, which can often correspond with the evening meal.
Click to read their 15 tips and insights to make mealtime more enjoyable. At The Memory Centers in Richmond and Virginia Beach, we employ several of them including minimizing distractions, providing a variety of choices, flavors and textures. Having a sense of humor while staying calm, comfortable, and reassuring is also helpful.
Click to read more about The Memory Center philosophy to residential memory care, or what a typical day is like here.
Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia is challenging. If you are caring for a spouse or close family member it can be even more challenging as you’re also dealing with the emotion of seeing a loved one in a state of decline.
There are some practical tips caregivers can take to help manage stress.
Reduce Alzheimer’s Frustration & Agitation
Agitation is common in people living with Alzheimer’s and dementia. Agitation can be caused by boredom, new situations, fear stemming from trying to make sense of a world they don’t understand, or basic needs like hunger.
Caregivers might not be able to reduce agitation completely but there are steps they can take to get ahead of it.
Take note of when agitation seems to occur. Is it a a specific time of day around mealtime? Perhaps they are hungry or thirsty. Is it at a busy time of day when other family members are coming home from work? If so try to limit noise or outside distractions and engage them in an appropriate activity.
Activities that provide a sense of independence and purpose can ease agitation – especially with those in the early stages of the disease. Familiar activities like setting the table, gardening, folding laundry, helping in the kitchen (with supervision), or their favorite craft. See our ideas for different activities or these tips from the Alzheimer’s Association.
Realize You Are Not Alone
While caregivers may feel isolated, it is important to know many others are in the same situation. Don’t be afraid to attend support groups where you can share your feelings or ask for helpful ideas. The Alzheimer’s Association and other organizations also offer online forums and support where you can connect with others 24 hours a day.
Develop A Schedule
Develop a basic schedule based around your loved one’s mood and needs. For example scheduling appointments, bathing and other activities in the morning when they are rested and have more energy.
As late afternoon approaches you may sense a trend of wandering or agitation from sundowning. This could be a good time of day to engage them in easy, soothing activities such as listening to music, watching a familiar movie, clipping coupons or looking through old photos. Click to read The Memory Center tips on how to manage sundowning.
Acknowledge Each Day Is Different
Even with a schedule every day will be different and sometimes you just need to be flexible. Those with Alzheimer’s, and their caregivers, will have better days than others. There may be days you feel like you didn’t get anything accomplished – and it is OK to feel that way. Keeping someone fed, safe, bathed and occupied is a big job and an accomplishment in itself.
Think About Safety
In addition to memory loss, Alzheimer’s also affects other brain functions including sense of perception and balance. Creating a safe place in the home where they can walk safely without trip hazards including rugs, cords, or sharp corners is highly encouraged.
Another safety concern is wandering, which is a common behavior for people with memory loss. Even if your loved one isn’t wandering, it is still a good idea to take steps to prevent wandering before it starts. Consider installing locks high up on doors and adding an alarm system, or a simple bell mechanism, that will alert you if a door has been opened. ID bracelets and other tracking devices like Medic Alert can help identify your loved one should they wander off.
Take A Break & Ask For Help
Caregivers are under a lot of stress and often don’t take time to keep up with friends, exercise routines or their own needs. Not taking breaks can easily lead to fatigue and caregiver burnout which isn’t good for you or your loved one.
Even if someone with Alzheimer’s objects, caregivers need to schedule time away on a regular basis. Ask another family member for help or consider using respite services who can provide caregivers experienced in working with people living Alzheimer’s and dementia.
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The Memory Center is dedicated to meeting the challenging conditions of an aging brain with a caring, interactive community designed around the individual. We are here to support our current residents, future residents and their families by providing resources and exceptional programming to those living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia.
Fill out our contact form to receive more tips and information on how to live well with Alzheimer’s and dementia.
Join The Memory Center Richmond and Kindred Hospice for a special lunch and learn. This one hour program will explore the four types of Alzheimer’s disease and tips to effectively communicate with patients.
Almost every minute Alzheimer’s disease impacts a new brain in the United States, and 2/3 of these belong to women. Women are also more likely to become a primary caregiver to someone living with Alzheimer’s.
While Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia impact everyone, women are at the center of this growing epidemic.
Maria Shriver and The Women’s Alzheimer’s Movement™ is on a mission to inform and educate women around the US and provide key research to find out why women are more likely to receive an Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
You can join the Women’s Movement in the fight. Sign up online to show your support, see tips on how to keep your brain healthy and active, get the facts on Alzheimer’s or explore tips for caregivers.
Taking care of your kids at home while caring for an elderly parent? You’re a member of The Sandwich Generation, although the name sounds more appetizing than the scenario.
Adults in The Sandwich generation have children at home – or older kids maybe fresh out of the nest but still requiring support – and they also have an elderly parent who with increasing care needs. It’s a daunting and exhausting place to be – and we haven’t even mentioned the full-time workload you’re probably carrying.
We’re here to provide support.
7 Tips to Ease the Burden of Raising Kids While Caring for Elderly Parents
There is good news for The Sandwich Generation is twofold. First, you are not alone. In fact, according to the Pew Research Center nearly 50% of adults between the ages of 40 and 59 have a minor at home and/or an adult child they support AND have a parent 65+ who will require increasing levels of care. Just knowing you have a tribe out there can help.
Secondly, you are seen. Those of us who work in the world of senior and memory care witness first hand the burden placed upon you. We have many tips to help you take care of everyone in your family, without sacrificing the last vestiges of yourself, your energy levels and overall well-being.
Putting these 7 tips you can put into place can help ease the hardships placed on you and your family during this compressed period of time.
1 – Start visiting local assisted living communities
. In the midst of crisis is one of the worst times to make big decisions. Instead, take advantage of free consultations with assisted living and memory care communities in your area. These consultations are rich with information and ideas you can put to work now while considering and developing your long-term plan.
Visiting long term care facilities is the only way to know which one feels like the best fit for you/your parents when the time comes. And if your parent is in the beginning stages of dementia or Alzheimer’s, these consultations give him/her some agency regarding their future – very important during a time when seniors often feel like they’re losing autonomy.
2 – Make the home safe and accessible
There are plenty of articles out there on how to remodel a home and make it accessible, but it doesn’t have to be that complicated. With even simple changes and adjustments to your parent’s house and yard, you’ll notably decrease their risk of falling – and that decreases their risk of hospitalization or surgical interventions known to contribute to senior cognitive decline.
Some of the most easiest changes to making a senior’s home safer include installing motion-sensitive lighting, minimizing trip hazards (like exposed cords, edges of area rugs, uneven thresholds, etc.), installing handrails in toilet and bath/shower areas, building a ramp if needed, rearranging cupboards so everyday items are accessible without bending over or standing on a step stool, and providing an easier way to reach you when needed.
3 – Include your children in the process
. We often forget children are alert and aware of what’s happening in the household and to the ones they love. Even if you think you’re keeping the majority of the “heavy stuff” out of their world, they know and sense you are being stretched beyond your means.
However, even adult children don’t always know what to say or how to help. Similarly, children are just as worried and concerned about their grandparent(s) in their own way and may feel very helpless, which can cause younger children and teens to act out.
If nothing else, foster open communication in age-appropriate ways about what’s happening to grandma and/or grandpa, how you are feeling and about how difficult this situation is at times. The more open and communicative your family is, the more supportive and connected it can remain – even during the toughest moments. If they’re old enough, engage children in helping to provide care and companionship, if they’re young – find little things they can do to be useful. We recommend reading, alz.org’s, Helping Your Children or Grandchildren. The tips are universal for any family coping with dementia or Alzheimer’s – whether you’re sandwiched or not.
4 – Make taking care of yourself a priority
You know the airplane safety spiel about fastening your oxygen mask first, and then ensuring everyone around you has fastened theirs? Use it as a metaphor for your current life. If you think things are emotionally and financially challenging now, imagine what it would be like if you wound up succumbing to serious medical issues as a result of over stressed caregiver depletion. It happens all the time to primary caregivers and it leaves their loved ones in a major lurch.
Primary caregivers must make their well-being a priority so they remain healthy, balanced and as centered as possible through this phase of the journey. That means eating a well-balanced diet, finding ways to get a little exercise in (some days, that might mean parking in the furthest spot to walk a little longer or taking the stairs instead of the elevator) and finding a way to clear 5- or 10-minutes of quiet-time amidst the busy-ness. Joining an Alzheimer’s support group can also provide a wealth of emotional support and bolstering.
5 – Take advantage of respite care options.
If your parent hasn’t relocated yet, contact local home care agencies to ask about their respite care services. Respite care providers give primary spouse and/or family caregivers the opportunity to focus on their regularly scheduled lives. In your case, this means more time to have dinner with the family, attend academic and extracurricular activities, go to bible study or religious events and to gain more quality time with the kids.
It can also serve as a baby step of sorts, a means of getting you and your parent accustomed to letting someone else help out with everything from companionship, driving and medication reminders, to meal preparation, bathing, dressing and toileting – all the things that may need to be taken over as your parent’s condition progresses.
6 – Imagine you’re meeting your parent for the first time
Whether a parent is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or dementia, suffering from the crippling grief from the loss of a spouse and/or peers, or is simply frustrated s/he can no longer do the things s/he loved – The ability to take big steps back is an amazing skill-set for children caregivers to develop.
Imagine you’re meeting your parent for the very first time. See your parent as s/he is now – while keeping your memories sacred. This will help you to find new ways to connect, explore creative ways to communicate, and establish deeper means of cultivating compassion with who they are – and what they’re capable of – in each moment.
7 – Be gentle with yourself
You’re under a tremendous pressure – not to mention emotional duress. Also, you are human. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself – and always forgive yourself in the moments you aren’t at your best.
Research has proven the human touch is powerful, and it holds true even when someone is living with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia.
In fact, a simple hug or touch on the arm can calm someone with memory loss by decreasing stress, anxiety and promoting relaxation. We see this at The Memory Center communities every day.
As the disease progresses, some people will want to be touched more and more such as wanting to hold your hand, having their arm rubbed or giving hugs. Even though the individual may not remember day-to-day details, that doesn’t mean they forget emotions and the feelings associated with them.
As shown in the graphic below there are some tips to hugging someone with Alzheimer’s to avoid frightening them and to accurately convey the emotion.
While touch is very powerful and can greatly benefit people living with Alzheimer’s it is still a good idea to ask them if it is all right. Everyone is different and will have good and bad days – including some where they may not welcome a hug.
The Memory Center, Atlanta invites you to a special informational seminar on Sunday, May 21st from 1pm-3pm.
Learn more about what Memory Care means, determining the right time to moved your loved one, what to look for in a community, pricing information, caregiver tips and more.
The Memory Center, Atlanta is opening soon and will be area’s most comprehensive community dedicated exclusively to those living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia.
Located in Johns Creek next to City Hall and Emory Johns Creek Hospital at 12050 Findley Rd our community is comprised of 48 residential suites designed and constructed around our innovative Town Center concept.
Visit us and see the new standard in Memory Care. Everyone who attends will receive a complimentary copy of “How to Care for Aging Parents” by Virginia Morris.
The Memory Center, Atlanta Information Seminar
When: Sunday May 21st, 1pm – 3pm
Where: The Memory Center Offsite Location: Regus Office Bldg. 11555 Medlock Bridge Rd. (next to Hyatt Place) Johns Creek, GA 30097 – Site tours of our facility will be available
Alzheimer’s disease can be difficult for children, teens, children even adults to understand. There will be times you grandma doesn’t seem like she used to. Or without warning she may get confused, agitated or even angry to the point of accusing you of stealing. And it may happen when you are out in public, at church, the grocery store, or at a family gathering. Even though you know Alzheimer’s is the cause, it is common to be embarrassed about it.
While you can’t stop behavior changes due to Alzheimer’s, there are tips to help you better manage the situation.
Think About It From Their Perspective
Alzheimer’s progressively destroys brain cells over time, so during the early stages many people living with the disease do recognize something is wrong. They may know they are supposed to recognize you, but they can’t. Imagine how frustrating and scary that would be.
It is important to put yourself in their shoes and think about how you might react if your world suddenly didn’t make sense or you were in a position where you realized you should know someone – even a close family member – but just couldn’t remember who they were or what they meant to you.
Adjust Social Routines
Everyone needs social interaction, even those living with memory loss. But as the disease progresses unfamiliar places and social interactions can become scary and more become difficult to manage.
Consider hosting the monthly family dinner at your house, or the home of a close friend instead of meeting at a new restaurant. Consider a familiar locale for the family vacation and stick to visiting favorite landmarks and attractions.
While each day is different, through many stages of Alzheimer’s it is likely your loved one will feel more comforted and peaceful with the familiar vs. something new that might trigger fear or agitation.
Have A Sense Of Humor
While Alzheimer’s and dementia are serious, as a family member of friend keeping a sense of humor makes a big difference. Let’s face it, there are times you just have to find humor in the situation. It can lighten the mood not only for yourself, but also for your family and your loved one suffering from memory loss.
And don’t forget is human nature to pick up on the emotions of others around you and this is no different for those living with memory loss. Getting embarrassed or anxious when grandma says the wrong thing can even make the situation worse as she picks up on your rising level of anxiety.
Sometimes it is just best to whisper a quiet apology, laugh and move on.
Alzheimer’s is a progressive disease that destroys memory. If someone can’t remember, recalls something differently, or is convinced the neighbor stole their favorite pen, don’t spend time arguing or trying to convince them otherwise. Even if they end up agreeing with you today it is no guarantee they will remember it tomorrow. Instead try reassuring them or even asking questions about the memory they are recalling.
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